More good news

I'm sure that holidays are better healers than any medicine.

I returned to Joburg and ordinary life after no less than seven weeks of holiday, feeling better than I have since before I started chemo 18 months ago.

Tim's long leave took us to the Maldives, Cape Town, Durban, Thula Thula (for that huge birthday), then to London. Tim, James and Ali had a week of skiing with Geoff, Tim's cousin, in France and I popped off to Dublin for a couple of days and had a merry time in England. Then, Tim and James returned home and Ali and I stayed on in London for yet another week. What absolute luck. This is living in the present and life in abundance.

My latest CT scan showed that the tumours had shrunk by a further 7%. This is particularly good news as the cancer tends to become nasty again after about 4 months. The trend is definitely in the right direction and I have another 3 months of happy living in hand.

The literacy program, that I'm so delighted with, is expanding at a rate. There are 3 new Link Centres opening in Johannesburg soon. I will attend training in Cape Town in March, which will allow our pilot Link Centre at Salvazione School in Brixton to be fully accredited. This will further our credibility with the Department of Education. Shine, our umbrella organisation, is the only NGO in SA that is allowed to interact with the children during teaching hours. The teaching makes my heart sing and I'm so enjoying the interaction with the people who are opening their own new centres. There is an extraordinary number of competent people who are willing to give their all to make a difference in the world.

Nicola is embracing life in London in her inimitable fashion. She has signed up for the London Marathon, works all hours and meets friends for coffee in the intervening minutes. She says she's been waiting her whole life for this. She is lucky to have our big, warm extended family there.

James is fully at the grindstone at UCT, doing his Graduate Diploma in Accounting. It's serious now.

Ali has had his first week of Medicine at Wits and loved every minute. What a blessing, he seems to be in the perfect place.

Tim is much restored after long leave. His treadmill seems to get faster and faster and he mainly loves the work he does.

I am so at peace and delighting at all the good fortune in my life. It has been an ongoing wonder to be present at so many of the occasions I thought I would miss. Not many are as delighted to be 50 as I!

All is well

My year is ending on a big high with all 3 children delighting us in so many ways.

Nicola starts a new job in financial consulting with KPMG in London on 9 January, James has graduated with first class honours and Ali has been offered a provisional place in medicine at Wits next year.

I couldn't ask more of them.

As I firmly believe in the old saying that it takes a village to raise a child, I need to thank the many of you who are significant role models and active supporters of us all. They could never have got this far without you.

Tim has reached the end of an exhausting business year, having made significant inroads into Africa and travelled far and wide. He has 5 weeks of well deserved long leave now.

We had an utterly glorious week together as a family in the Maldives in the first week of December. While languishing under a perfect palm tree, with a delicious cocktail in my hand, surrounded by my wonderful family, I did wonder how much more perfect heaven could be, or , if in fact, I was already there. Among other things, cancer has taught us to embrace the present and to make it as good as possible. Tim's astounding generosity makes this happen frequently.

God bless you over Christmas. Thank you for your support and prayers.

Excellent news

My instinct was right! The CT scan I had last week showed that the marker tumours have shrunk by 30 %. This is a better result than we had dreamed of. Dr Keo (Tabane) was utterly delighted and her usually grave and empathetic face was utterly beautiful in its joy. There is a good chance that the trend will continue and that the trained t cells will continue to attack the tumours in the period ahead.

I have been lucky to be at the right moment in medical history.

The drug is Ipilimumab and anyone you know with stage 4 melanoma cancer deserves to have the opportunity to have this drug.

My homeopathic doctor, Trish and I went together to consult the physician, Craig Golding and he too was delighted with the results. He says he has never seen a melanoma metastatic tumour shrink before. Together, they put together a regime of support medicines to help me to get over the side effects from the Ipi. These are largely hormonal and due to the effect of the drug on my endocrinal system.

We celebrated in style, with all 3 children and my mum, drinking French champagne out of Ali's art trophy. Such blithe madness.

Good news at last. We've been overwhelmed by messages of jubilation. Thank you for your unfailing support.

In rehab!

On Saturday, after 2 weeks of fitness rehab with a trainer at the gym in Parkview, I found myself at the gym, alone, working through a series of exercises and, in so doing, I realised I'm actually in rehabilitation. What delight. This human body is so forgiving. I have tormented it with surgery, radiation, chemo, cortisone and Ipi and now it is allowing me to get over it all and get strong again.

My two superficial melanoma affected lymph glands (palpable lumps) have both shrunk from the size of peas to match heads. This indicates a positive response to the countless number of prayers said for me, Ipi or maybe the Dendric Cell Vaccine or maybe the treatment with the Skia machine and homeopathy, and probably all of the above. Profound positive expletives apply, whopee!

I will have CT scans soon and Dr Keo has warned that they may not show a positive response yet. I will be suprised if they don't.

Life has been absolutely marvellous, with the spotlight on Ali as he has finished school. We had a glorious week of prize giving, the Matric Art Exhibition and the leaving Valedictory, which left us all emotionally exhausted and on a high. The deep and quiet triumph of being there in full health was profound. Then Al did his driver's licence on Friday and passed. What rapture! The sudden and immediate move from child to adulthood is astounding to behold.

I had a mad moment of missing James at the Sunday lunch table last week, so generous Tim has flown him up for 6 days to study for exams. Mother bliss with all 3 at home, making tea and baking cakes to keep the studying boys nourished.

Nic has been in Mpumalanga for the weekend at a conference at Phakamani Bank, where she worked a bit last year. The project, based on Mohumed Younis' Grameen Bank, is thriving. She has some exciting plans ahead.

A month of exams, then a month of holidays, what more could I wish for?

Treatment complete

I've had all 4 of the treatments of Ipi now and after what has felt like a long period of chronic fatigue, I'm beginning to feel human again. Just as well, as there are several wonderful end of matric functions to attend and I need to be on top form to enjoy them fully. Each continues to be a moment of quiet triumph, having dreaded missing them.

I will have a CT scan in about a month to see how those tumours have responded to Ipi. Further decisions will be made then and I've been well trained to live in the present and not worry about what might or might not happen until it does. It seems that various parts of my endocrine system have taken a knock, and strong homeopathic support is allowing a good recovery. I have learned that being born with O positive blood is much in my favour in terms of my ability to bounce back after a knock.

Tim has long leave this year, so we have all sorts of exciting ideas about how to max out on the special time. As Ali starts at university next year, this will be the first January in 21 years when we aren't bound by school terms. We are hoping to have a couple of weeks when all 5 of us can be together, Nic's job and ever tight leave situation willing. The planning is so much fun and our ideas have been wild and at times horribly expensive.

In the interim, we need to batton the hatches and get the house running military-style to give Ali his best shot with matric. He has been offered a place in the BMed Sc Biomed ( a shadow medical degree, which could allow transition into medicine in second year provided that exceptional results are achieved) at Wits next year and he is still being considered for a place in medicine, which will be dependent on his matric results.

James writes his final Business Science exams in a few weeks and we're planning with delighted anticipation to go to his graduation on 14 December.

My amazing mum has flown off to England again this evening. She is going to see my special Aunt Ro and then on to see her dear Grandfather Friend, Norman. As the children say, high praise indeed, Granny is a legend!

Flagging

As the 4th treatment approaches on Thursday, I'm seem to be on a go slow. I'm battling with fluid retention and low energy. I suspect the blood tests will reveal a few thing awry.

I hope the CT gals don't mind being published! The picture of me, while not flattering, is interesting as my eyes have regained their colour. They were peculiarly colourless and lizard-like for several months as a result of the chemo.

Spirits are high at home as James is home on study leave for the week and Nic is just back from her amazing trip to the UK and Kenya. Each trip sends them home with a greater understanding of the hugeness of the world and the opportunities out there. Ali started his final school term today. He is rested and restored and ready to take on the matric challenge.

Tim is in Athens for a few days. While it's a pity for him to miss the time with James, I think he deserves a break from everything, even if it involves long flights. The international meetings are always so stimulating and energising.

Round 3 Ipi

Cape Town was utterly gorgeous and we did need to wonder how we had ever left. We relished fabulous walks along the Atlantic seaboard, spectacular sunsets and some slow and precious time catching up with James, seeing his photos of his France trip and watching his team playing hockey. Tim worked hard during the week, while I played, and our weekends in Camps Bay and Noordhoek were idyllic. We loved catching up with the Cape Town partners and their wives at the strategy meeting at Asara Wine Estate in Stellenbosch.

Round 3 is causing fatigue and a spectacular rash on my shins, back and arms. While unsightly, it is a welcome indicator that my immune system is responding to the Ipi. My blood tests reveal that things are beginning to skew as a result of the drug. Dr Tabane seemed gently confident that my 50th birthday is within range.

Ali is safely back, having had an eye opening and immensely stimulating trip to the US. They saw 9 shows and many of the masterpieces he has studied in art. He's getting through the jet lag now and needing to get back to his desk to do some studying.

Nicola has flown out to the UK and then to Nairobi on a 10 day breather. There's no holding this lot back. We're a lucky bunch.